Decompression

I took Friday and Saturday to relax a bit and decompress from the crazy week. Although it had only been a few days since we had received word of my mom’s prognosis, it seemed a lot longer. I decided that I would take Friday to get the oil changed in our car and get a haircut as well as talking to the nursing home staff to discuss mom’s care and figuring out the car situation for my next trip to Massachusetts even though I was pretty sure that I would be taking Alise’s car on Sunday.

Saturday was a beautiful day. I canceled my class and spent most of the day playing outside with the kids while Robyn worked. We went for a nice walk around the neighborhood. I was surprised when I got a call in the morning from my brother Mike who I’ve not actually spoken with in over 15 years. When I saw his name come up on the caller ID, I had a feeling that our conversation would be weird and awkward but we quickly fell into a comfortable discussion of mom’s condition and onto other things in our lives like his kids and my kids and our work and even our father. It was a really nice talk and we made an agreement to stay in touch before we hung up.

Yesterday was Difficult

My mother was admitted to the ICU on the Saturday, September 24th while I was in Charlotte and has been there ever since while the doctors have been trying various treatments to support her oxygen levels. Nothing has worked. I’ve been assuming that this visit would be like all the others over the last couple years – a few days in the hospital and then she’d come home.

Mom’s doctors had a frank and honest discussion with her yesterday (and called me yesterday afternoon to discuss it as well) and said that her prognosis is not good. They are doing all they can to keep her oxygen levels up to where she can breathe but they cannot continue that level of oxygen outside of an ICU environment and her oxygen saturation will continue to drop over time due to the her decreasing lung and heart function. They suggested that we look into some type of hospice care because doing what they’re doing in the ICU is exposing her to other problems like infections and pneumonia. She is alert and actually feels relatively good so this makes deciding these things very difficult. Debbie has been very helpful in navigating these waters and had really been there for me.

We’re going to be heading to MA tomorrow to visit and help her make the necessary decisions. I’m not sure what the coming days and weeks will hold.

First Day of Summer

Today is the first day of summer for 2011. The neighborhood kids are done with school and the weather has been beautiful. I was reminded of my summer routine when I was about 13 or 14 years old before I began working at Ed & Art’s Video and my days were totally free to do whatever I wanted.

My mom worked at the Cozy Nook restaurant (or whatever it was called at that time) and she used to wake up really early to leave the house by 5am to open the restaurant and get things moving for the other early risers who needed their coffee and breakfast. My sister, if she had stayed at home, was also out of the house long before I woke up around 8 or 9 o’clock so the house was quiet and I pretty much had it to myself. I read whatever it was that I was reading (most likely a Stephen King novel or an Elfquest comic) for a while while laying in bed. Then I would get up and take a “shower”. I have that in quotes because our showers were taken in our bathtub that didn’t have a shower head. Instead, we connected a hose that ended in a sprinkler head to the shower faucet. In order to make this work, we would have to kneel in the tub and spray ourselves with the hose. I didn’t think it was odd at the time….

After I showered, I would usually take the dog for a walk and then go back to the house and watch TV for a while. Re-runs of “Alice“, “One Day at a Time” and game shows were my favorites at that time. For a while, my mom ended her workday at 11am so she would often come home with breakfast for me. This is probably where my love for corn muffins came from. There was something special about one of those rectangular muffins, sliced in half and cooked on a greasy diner grill and loaded with butter. Mmmmmm. My other favorite was a “Western” sandwich with no green peppers. Both of these foods probably contributed to my unhealthy weight but they were delicious.

Now that breakfast was done the whole day lay before me like an open book. Most days probably consisted of hanging out with my friend Christian and/or my cousin Scott depending on who was around. Bike riding, playing “army”, playing Dungeons & Dragons, going to the movies, swimming, hanging around with the other kids in the neighborhood…whatever kept us busy in the days before video games and cell phones ruled teens’ lives. We would often go outside at lunch time and not come back into the house until after dark. Man, those were the days!

Thanksgiving 2010

For some reason, I am really excited about Thanksgiving this year. Maybe it’s because we’ve really been talking it up to the kids and they’ve been drawing hand-turkeys and talking about Charlie Brown and all those things that go along with this holiday? It’s also a chance to get together with Robyn’s family who we definitely don’t see enough these days. Chloe and Gabriel really enjoy playing with Douglas and Hannah so it’s an opportunity for some big fun and now that the kids are a little older, they pretty much entertain themselves while we get some “adult” time to chat with family. In any case, I was thinking about some Thanksgiving memories last night:

When I was really small, we would go to my Aunt Gloria’s house in Southbridge, Massachusetts for the day. In my earliest memories,  she had this big house that I don’t really remember very well with the exception of a few interesting tidbits. For example, there was an airplane in the basement. Continue reading

New Blog…More Writing

I’ve been working on moving my blog to a self-hosted WordPress. I’m very impressed at the simplicity and quality of the whole CMS and it’s SO much better than bBlog. It’s been quite nostalgic looking over my past 200 and something posts. I’m really glad that I wrote everything that I did because I’m sure that many details would have been forgotten if I hadn’t. That makes me even more excited about getting back to blogging (even if it’s just for my own memories).

Yeah, I suck….

So, as you can see the last update here was quite some time ago. I think Facebook and Twitter have killed my desire to write on my blog at all. That sucks because anything that’s posted to these other social networking sites is pretty ephemeral (yeah, that’s my big word for the day!). My original reason for writing was to have a “journal” that I could refer to. This just isn’t feasible when we use Twitter or FB (actually, you can use something like Twinbox to archive Tweets, but you need to use something other than just a browser to do so) so it’s sad to see a lot of my “journaling” done on these other sites.

The other thing that has kept me away from posting here is my desire to find some better blogging software. Bblog is long dead and probably full of security holes. I fiddled around with Drupal and a couple other platforms for a while but these ended up being more than I needed and not worth the “price of admission” (the steeeeep learning curve). I think I’ve pretty much decided to install a copy of WordPress locally and go from there since I don’t trust anyone else to host my content.

In other news, it’s been a crazy year so far and I simply cannot believe that it’s already the first of September. So much has happened and so little has changed! One of these days I’ll get around to writing about it all.

The High Cost of Medical Care

I was sitting in the orthopedic doctor’s office a few weeks back when I went to get the pain and clicking in my knee checked out. As with just about every doctor’s office, the wait between checking in and finally being seen into an exam room was about 40 minutes so I spent the time looking at the well worn magazines strewn about the waiting room. The article about travel in Peru was not really keeping me entertained so I turned my attention to the conversation going on between the receptionist and the other folks at the front desk.

They were talking about how their “coffee boy” was going to be in any time now and they hoped that he would bring their favorite drinks. Within a few minutes, a well dressed, good looking gentleman holding one of those cardboard drink carriers from Dunkin Donuts came up to the desk and he was greeted happily by all the office workers. He made another trip back out and returned with a second set of drinks. Everyone thanked him saying they were impressed that he remembered what to bring and that he was their favorite sales rep. They all shot the shit for a while and the pharmaceutical rep asked about “the numbers”. I’m guessing he was referring to the number of prescriptions the doctor was giving out for whatever medications were sold or manufactured by his employer.

At one point, the receptionist said with a laugh, “he’s giving those out like candy”.

The conversation went on for a while (with what I think was a bit of flirtatious banter) and then Mr. Salesman asked what day next week would be best for him to bring in lunch. They gave him a day and spent a while telling him their food preferences. Everyone chatted about their favorite catering places and how some were better than others. Mr. Salesman indicated that he always uses the same caterers because he knows they do a good job.

Soon he was out the door and on his way to visit the next doctor’s office and a week or so later, I was waiting to get an MRI on my knee. To my surprise, I caught the end of a similar conversation between the receptionist at the MRI place and a woman who must have been a medical salesperson. Another question about what day would be best to have lunch brought in….

I can picture these discussions going on hundreds of times a day in medical offices all over New Jersey, and thousands of times all over the country. How much money is spent by these pharmaceutical and medical supply companies on these kinds of things? The amount must be staggering.

Can’t Hold It

It seems my life is ruled by urination lately. Potty training two toddlers is an interesting experience that is really keeping us busy around the house. The good news is that Gabriel is really taking to it. The bad news is that we’re in and out of the bathroom 25+ times a day and the little guy has figured out that he can use “I have to make a peepee” as a way to get us to react to his every whim. Our plan was to get both kids using the potty at the same time, but Chloe really wasn’t getting it those first few days, so we decided that we’d get the G-Man trained and then get her using it in a few weeks. This has really cut down on the stress (although you’d never know it) and the mess.

Therefore, it’s fitting that the following took place just the other day. My bank recently made a big change to their online banking site and after the upgrade, I was no longer able to access the bill payment functions of their application. I jumped on their live chat application to see if I could get this fixed. The agent was helpful and really brightened my day as you can see below:

Funny Chat